Ladies, let’s get straight to business: Not only do orgasms feel good, they’re good for you as well. Research suggests that the release of hormones from orgasms can have benefits like:
- Reducing stress
- Easing inflammation and pain
- Promoting circulation
But for many women, reaching orgasm isn’t that easy. The Kinsey Institute reports that when women have sex with men, they orgasm 63% of the time. This number rises to 75% when the sex is between women and 85% when the sex is between men.
It’s clear that there’s an orgasm disparity, and there are many reasons why. Some of the more obvious ones are: As a society, we tend to overvalue penis-in-vagina, or penetrative sex. Additionally, men—and even women—tend to be woefully uneducated when it comes to female anatomy.
So, what can women (and men) do to close this gap? Achieving an orgasm requires both body and mind. And there are a few things you can do that can help your body get in the right state. And yep, one of those things includes consuming cannabis.
1. Think About Sex Differently
Vaginal sex is just one kind of sex. There’s oral, anal and manual—to name a few. And for a lot of women, penetration doesn’t always equal orgasm. On average, it takes women 10–20 minutes to orgasm, and 70% percent of women need direct clitoral stimulation to do so. A lot of these requirements don’t seem to favor vaginal sex.
Given the numbers, it makes sense to incorporate different types of sex into a single lovemaking sesh—especially if you or your partner have differing needs.
And who says sex has to involve two people? Masturbation can be especially helpful for women who have a hard time climaxing during partnered sex; it helps them become familiar with their bodies. Practice makes perfect, after all.
2. Strengthen Your Pelvic Muscles
Your pelvic floor muscles do a lot: They support your bladder, bowels and uterus, for instance. But they also have an important sexual function. Having stronger pelvic floor muscles can help reduce pelvic pain during intercourse and boost your ability to feel pleasurable sensations. And the best part is, you’re likely familiar with a few of these exercises, which include:
- Bridge pose
You just need to do them regularly to see results.
3. Exercise More, Stress Less
Getting your body moving can help boost your chances of achieving the big O. Not only does cardiovascular exercise increase circulation, it relieves stress and boosts confidence—all things that are needed for a healthy sex life.
Research shows that even a small amount of exercise can boost endocrine and nervous system activity in women. Bodily changes like this can make it easier for women to get into the mood.
4. Consume Cannabis for Better Sex
OK, you knew this was coming, but seriously, there’s a reason why you keep hearing us talk about marijuana and sex: It’s because it works for a lot of people. The plant has been used as an aphrodisiac since ancient times, and this knowledge hasn’t been forgotten.
Surveyed cannabis consumers say that cannabis can increase sexual pleasure and satisfaction. Maybe that’s why cannabis consumers have more sex than those who don’t consume marijuana.
Marijuana and sex seem to be a match made in heaven. Cannabis can:
- Boost libido
- Ease anxiety
- Reduce painful sex
- Increase sensitivity and pleasure
Put simply, the plant can help us get out of our head and into our bodies. Many companies in the modern-day cannabis market have caught on to this and are making products intended to enhance consumer’s sexual experience. Some include Kikoko’s Sensuali-tea and Dosist’s passion and arouse vape pens.
Overall, when it comes to reaching your peak, it’s important to remember that everyone’s different. And while orgasms feel great, they aren’t always the hallmark of a quality sexual experience. But hopefully a few of these tips will put you on the path to more frequent and satisfying orgasms.
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